Sad Dad's

I was blessed with 3 Fathers. My biological Dad died before I was born. The Dad who raised me left a positive mark of unconditional love etched upon my heart. My Father in heaven is the creator of all fathers and mothers. I was never abused by anyone close to me. I know many folks who were abused by people whom they should have had loving and trusting relationships with. Abuse of any kind: sexual, emotional, physical or verbal is a seed that sows resentment in your heart.

"Have your ill feelings of resentment

towards your abuser

become your idol?"

She was only a child when she was molested by a stranger. Her Dad wasn't around to protect her and she hurt. She felt dirty, it was like the molester smeared her innocence with dirt. She felt hurt and dirty. The years went by and the dirty hurt grew heavier. She was unable to cleanse her heart so she reasoned that maybe she was the dirty girl who deserved to be treated dirty. She began to do dirty things and invite more dirt into her heart. She had been an innocent victim whose shame and inability to find healing caused her to become a victimizer. She became the victim all over again and invited others to share in her victimization.

Parts of that story are repeated in the lives of 1 out of every 3 girls and 1 out of every 5 boys before the age of 18, according to national statistics. Many people do not tell anyone what happened to them, so it's probably much worse than that. Victims feel ashamed, embarrassed and somehow responsible. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE! There is goodness in life and YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HEALING! You may have been abused, abandoned, rejected or devalued, you have the free will that chooses how you will process the dirt. Will you turn the dirt on your soul into soil for your heart to grow love? If you don't, it's quite possible for your heart to grow cold and unfeeling. Fear is the opposite of love. The people who hurt you were full of fear and their hearts have become hardened. Healing for you is as near as your shadow in the sun light.

 Here are 10 keys to finding healing:

1. Admit the reality of what happened to you.
2. Adopt a philosophy that says: "I don't have to be what happened to me."
3. Believe that you are worthy of unconditional love.
4. Become a dispenser of grace, sow seeds of healing.
5. Choose to be more than a survivor - you are more than a conqueror.
6. Channel pure and positive thoughts into your mind - renew your mind.
7. Decide to leave the past behind as mulch for your future growth.
8. Decorate the walls of your heart with the newness of a reborn life.
9. Educate yourself in the school of healing thinking.
10. Elect Jesus as Lord over your healing process. He will never leave you or forsake you.

 The person who hurt you had a hardened heart. It's possible that is was your Dad, Mom or someone close to you. Stop looking for answers from them. They might be dead or alive, spiritually dead or spiritually alive. You will not find healing looking for answers from them. They were blinded by the sin that was perpetrated upon their own heart and it caused them to blindly inflict you with the pain they carried. Healing is a struggle. It's a constant cocoon-like struggle. The fluid of acceptance of what happened to you, will help free you from that cocoon. The fluid of acceptance, when forced into the wings of your soul,  will give lift to wings of freedom from guilt and shame that you struggle with.  Stop throwing salt on your emotional wound by asking unanswerable questions that add to your resentment. Imagine yourself as a tree in the dead of winter looking forward to spring and the healing warmth it will bring.

"Once upon a time, there was a Mom wrapped so deeply in the sin of adultery that she dragged her daughter into shame. A man spoke truth to her and told her to stop her adulterous ways. She refused  and conceived a plan to kill the man who was speaking words of accountability. The mom decided to use her daughters unique, God given talent as a tool of darkness. The daughter danced for her Mom's partner in adultery and he was overwhelmed by her talent. As a reward for her beautiful talent, the adulterer promised the young girl that she could have anything that she desired. The girl didn't ask for a doll or money or anything else that a child might ask for, she asks for the head of the man who told the truth. Her mother had instructed her to ask for the man who held her Mom accountable to be killed. She wants the mans head cut off and put on a platter. The daughter does exactly as her mom has guided her. The mom's sex partner orders  the voice of accountability to be decapitated. Truth is silenced as the bloody head is served up to the daughter on a platter. The daughter shares her dark reward with her mother. The voice of truth is silenced by the blindness of a hardened heart." 
(This is my paraphrase of a story from Matthew 14 in the Bible.)

• I wonder how many people were tainted that day? 

• I wonder if the daughter became a mom who guided her children the same way? 

• I wonder if the mom had other children she used in shameful ways? 

• I wonder who would seek healing from the depravity of sexual sins that were impregnated into each successive generation?
• I wonder how many dads and moms are silent regarding their children's hurting hearts?
• I wonder what kind of a dad an adulterer and murderer would be?

Do not reject the healing that is just waiting for your belief.

"32 If you reject the Son of Man out of some misunderstanding, the Holy Spirit can forgive you, but when you reject the Holy Spirit, you're sawing off the branch on which you're sitting, severing by your own perversity all connection with the One who forgives.

33 "If you grow a healthy tree, you'll pick healthy fruit. If you grow a diseased tree, you'll pick worm-eaten fruit. The fruit tells you about the tree.

34 "You have minds like a snake pit! How do you suppose what you say is worth anything when you are so foul-minded? It's your heart, not the dictionary, that gives meaning to your words.

35 A good person produces good deeds and words season after season. An evil person is a blight on the orchard."

 Matthew 12:32-35 The Message

 

Today's Wise Saying is from Proverbs 23:22-25

Proverbs 23:22-25

New International Version (NIV)

Saying 17

²² Listen to your father, who gave you life,
    and do not despise your mother when she is old.
²³ Buy the truth and do not sell it—
    wisdom, instruction and insight as well.
²⁴ The father of a righteous child has great joy;
    a man who fathers a wise son rejoices in him.
²⁵ May your father and mother rejoice;
    may she who gave you birth be joyful!

Proverbs 23:22-25

The Message (MSG)

Buy Wisdom, Education, Insight

16

^22-25 Listen with respect to the father who raised you,
    and when your mother grows old, don’t neglect her.
Buy truth—don’t sell it for love or money;
    buy wisdom, buy education, buy insight.
Parents rejoice when their children turn out well;
    wise children become proud parents.
So make your father happy!
    Make your mother proud!

Proverbs 23:22-25

Amplified Bible (AMP)

²² Hearken to your father, who begot you, and despise not your mother when she is old.

²³ Buy the truth and sell it not; not only that, but also get discernment and judgment, instruction and understanding.

²⁴ The father of the [uncompromisingly] righteous (the upright, in right standing with God) shall greatly rejoice, and he who becomes the father of a wise child shall have joy in him.

²⁵ Let your father and your mother be glad, and let her who bore you rejoice.

Proverbs 23:22-25

King James Version (KJV)

²² Hearken unto thy father that begat thee, and despise not thy mother when she is old.
²³ Buy the truth, and sell it not; also wisdom, and instruction, and understanding.
²⁴ The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice: and he that begetteth a wise child shall have joy of him.
²⁵ Thy father and thy mother shall be glad, and she that bare thee shall rejoice.

We all yearn for the love of our fathers. We want their respect and we try and earn it. When someone is ignored by their dad, it's sad. Many sad things create sore spots that hurt us and other people. Let their be peace in your heart, stop searching for answers. Seek the pattern of the Tabernacle; gratitude, obedience, sacrifice, and cleansing. Enter into God's Presence where His healing is unconditional and eternal.

Heart-Storming Challenge:

• What is the surest way to stop generational sin?
• Have you forgiven yourself?
• What helps you to stop asking questions about someone's spiritual deadness? Seek God.

Thanks for your time. Go do something nice for somebody.

Jesus loves you and so do we.